Tuesday, December 27, 2005

Tipping--the dark side

OK, I don't usually write anything controversial, but I'm going to today because it is my blog (dagnamit!!).

I hate the forced 'tipping' they do in the States. Everywhere you go, people are more than willing to help you out, but when people do it with their hand extended I get seriously embarrassed and insulted.

Firstly, I never carry cash, ever. My dad says I'm like royalty. Secondly, if a job is worth doing people should be paid the wages to do it. It shouldn't be up to other workers to supplement crappy salaries.

I know Brits have a stingy reputation, but we're not stingy--just look who always sends aid in a crisis and look at how generous the British people are during Children in Need and Red Nose Days. We are just not used to tipping everybody we smile at, or ask for directions, or who holds a door open for us.

I tip at restuarants and I tip my hairdresser (God bless her). Everyone else can take a look at my overdraft and compare it to theirs, or check out my kids non-existant eductaion savings account or... you get the picture.

So there--I'm mean and stingy, but I do smile and open doors for free :)


  1. Ooooh, how long have you been keeping that one in? Actually, I agree with 98% of what you said. People whose tips are guaranteed will not always do the job correctly. I've never been to a place that had gratuity included. I think it's more prevalent in some other states than it is here. The places that do it here I couldn't afford to go to anyway. Of course, you did hang out with those snobby people *g* But I must point out that if they paid waiters/waitresses a bigger salary I would no longer be able to afford to go to those places either. It stinks that the wage is so low. BUT Toni - the U.S. rushes to aid to - usually with our friends the Brits along side us. I know you didn't mean it that way - just thought I would toss it in there for the heck of it - after all, wasn't this supposed to be controversial? And it wouldn't be if I agreed with everything *gg* And did you know that you don't have to tip your hairdresser if he/she owns that shop? I didn't. We also give mom's a bonus at the end of the year.

  2. Oh Eve--I agree for tipping in resturants (like I said), but if they added 15% to the price of the food instead of you tipping the staff, surely it would be the same difference? As long as the staff are paid a decent salary. Seems like an excuse for business to pay less and, to me, it demeans the server. Because if you're not 'nice' you don't get a tip. It is all a bit classist to me also, transferring the onus onto the person buying food when it should be on people who run the restuarant.

    Plus if you can't afford to leave much of a tip (or you forget) you get treated like crap next time you go. Not that I'd know (cough)

    And I know the US gives tonnes in aid too--I was referencing the stingy Brit stereo-type, but really it isn't a stingy thing, it is a culture/social thing.

    PS. My hairdresser doesn't own the place--a very sexy male owns the place (and he's not gay!), but I don't tip him anything :)

  3. Frankly, I don't like to be forced to do anything. And for the record, I'm an EXCELLENT tipper because I appreciate how hard waiters work. The pay stinks, the hours are horrendous and the diners are usually rude and obnoxious. But dang it, don't try and force me into giving. Do not attach anything that looks like a gratuity to my bill. I tip because I want to tip. Try and make me tip and you'll suffer my wrath.


  4. Toni - I was teasing about the Brit/US thingy - I know you were addressing your stereotype - we Texans have our own that I'd like to tweak *g*
    No way - a goodlooking hairdresser who isn't gay? *g* (oooh, talk about stereotypes)

  5. Texans? You mean cowboys and line dancing ?? :)

    Tanya you're right, maybe it's the forced feel to the whole thing (in certain parts of the world). I hate to think of the awful wages so many people work for!!

  6. Anonymous10:47 pm

    And big hair!

  7. Oops - I did it this time.

  8. I didn't realize the states had a rep for overly tipping or that the Brits were considered stingy. You learn something new everyday. I tip busboys and hairdressers, that's it.

  9. The sad thing is that people DON'T get paid a decent salary. It's frustrating. My first summer in college, I worked at a state historical park and they actually paid me minimum wage as a waitress and I got to keep my tips. I thought I was rolling in the money!

    The income divide keeps getting bigger and bigger in this country. Those big bosses keep getting richer while they're hard-working employees barely scrape by.

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  11. i hate tipping myself. The only places I don't mind is for food because I know servers don't even get minimum wage in a lot of places.

  12. Nice to know I'm not the only one :)