Wednesday, April 26, 2006


(For Deanna, hope you're having a lovely time :)

Finn is fourteen and a half (over 100 in dog years) and still going strong--touch wood. I'm sure she wasn't expecting to emmigrate but we could hardly leave her behind. Not to mention her son would go nuts without her.

So here we all are in Canada.

Writing... Yesterday I edited 53 pages of single-spaced hardcopy. I have 68 pages to go. I would have done more but I got distracted researching the effects of kids growing up without fathers.

Some interesting stuff, not least that girls raised in a house with unrelated males hit puberty earlier. This fact amazed me, the relationship between social groups and reproductive capabilities is fascinating from a scientist's point of view--and must be heartbreaking when things don't go right as a parent. So maybe the falling age of kids hitting puberty isn't just the presence of synthetic hormones in the environment, it's a reflection of changing social structures.

I mailed this to DH and he was a little cautious in his response (probably thought I was nagging him about smoking again ;-))--then I reminded him he was an endocrinologist and he was OK with that.


  1. cute poochy!

    WTG on edits -

  2. I do know that the father's participation in a daughters life is important (and I haven't read the research yet).

    I'll echo Dennie - WTG on the edits. I broke a couple of nails *gg*

    The dog is cute, really, I'm not just saying that.

  3. That's supposed to be "when she sees one."

  4. Finn is lovely. What a sweetheart!

    And isn't it interesting to know the effects of unrelated males in the house? Hmmm...Must remember to not invite any males for any extended period of time. We'll monitor at the door. "You've been here 3 minutes longer than 2 days. GET OUT!" ;)

  5. Eve,

    You're being tricky this morning!

  6. Good luck with the rest of your editing. The research you did is fascinating.

    Finn is really cute!

  7. Thanks Dennie,
    Thanks mystery stranger :D get out the nail file :) You're working!

    Dads are VERY important. I mean we know it, but sometimes is good to be able to pin it down. Having said that bad dads can do more harm than good :-/ OK, don't get me thinking about poor little kids, I'm in a good mood!

    Meretta, good idea. Men leave your pheromones at the door please :)

    Susan, thanks, and Finn is a cutie.

  8. Hmm? Are you trying to tell us something or is this research for a book? :-)

    I'll have to read the article. Should be interesting, seeing that I grew up without a father. And I'm completely screwed up. :-O

  9. Well -- at least we don't marry them off at 12 or 13 anymore :).

    And I think Finn is the cutest thing ever. Love the wise-lady grey in her fur :).


  10. Wow. You did some major editing work! Good for you!

    Love the picture of your pup! He looks very well loved. :-)

  11. Peggy :D Both my hero and heroine lost their fathers at a young age. I guess it is something that moulds their characters and brings them together in many ways. I suddenly realized I was going on instinct as to how that would affect a child (abandonment issues etc) and wanted to check.

    Loreth--no thankfully they aren't married at 12/13 though I guess that would save on university fes for parents (argh!).

  12. Aaawwwww, Finn is a sweetie! Glad to hear the edits went well. The research sounds disturbing.

  13. ruby5512:53 am

    Toni, you asked about Elizabeth Lowell as Ann Maxwell. Most of the books that were originally written under Ann Maxwell have been reprinted under Elizabeth Lowell, I think anyway. I haven't looked very hard at the reprints because I have all her early books. Maxwell is her husbands's name and he wrote two books of his own as Evan Maxwell (his real name, I think). They've written Ann Maxwell books together. If you'd like to ask me, just write me an e-mail. I'm not sure if she has all her titles listed at her site. I'm the former Winnipegger in London, ON, in case you're wondering.

  14. ruby551:02 am

    Hmm. Interesting research results. I'm lucky to still have had my father for almost 2/3 of my life. He could well have been killed by a Russian firing squad if he hadn't been a daredevil and a good long-distance runner. I'm not even sure he'd actually seen me already before all this derring-do.

  15. Notice the author's need for this disclaimer: Let us understand at the outset that talking about the value of fathers does not diminish the crucial role of mothers, among whom I number. Nor is it a put-down of single mothers. Many do a heroic job raising their kids.

    She would have been tarred and feathered without it. Seriously though, my father being absent from my brother's life is a huge validation to what she is saying. He feels rejected, and as a result, has no self confidence. It's very sad.

  16. Ruby, thanks for info on Ann Maxwell. I'll have to order a bunch from the library and play catch up. I do remember now that her and her husband wrote together, and that would be interesting to read for the male/female comparison. I could never forget the ex Winnipegger--who else understands what I am going through??? Did you ever get my email? Your dad sounds like an adventure story unto himself. Thank goodness he escaped. Pity you can't tell his story!

    Scott--disclaimer disclaimer! LOL. Hard not to make someone feel bad or defensive. I think the importance of the mother or father changes over time too (I suppose everyone has figured this out already LOL). I think for a baby the mother/primary caregiver is all important, regardless of gender, to give the child stability and confidence. But as kids get older I think fathers become more and more important. I'm glad your brother is getting another chance.

  17. Toni, just finished reading the article (yeah, little slow). Some of those findings seemed unbelievabe (not that I'm questioning his findings, just startled). This one in particular I found interesting. Not that I could help with his research, there was no other non-related males in my home. (Though she did have one annoying boyfriend who never liked me.) It would be enough to scare off any woman from remarrying.

    "Or early menstruation may result from the presence of a non-related male in the home, in the case of remarriage and blended families. The body can detect the presence of a genetically unrelated "strange male" in the immediate vicinity, and that seems to trigger sexual readiness. The earlier and longer the exposure to stepfather or other unrelated male adult in the household, the stronger the effect, reports psychologist Bruce Ellis, of his groundbreaking studies on development and family structure."

  18. Peggy--it was really startling to me too! I've looked at some fish and big cat research, but never humans. Really quite startling.