Saturday, May 06, 2006

Forget-Me-Not

My DD brings me these everyday and dandelions. She's going through one of her phases when she's jealous of her little brother because she has to do more 'work' than him. Yesterday she buried the sidewalk chalk in gravel rather than picking it up and putting it away, and then lied about it--all because I'd sent DS inside.

Hard being the eldest.

Nice to get those parental treats, like occassionally staying up late, but harder to reconcile the responsibility. Anyway I tried to make it up to her by drawing a picture--my first in a few years, while I watched Sense & Sensibility on the VCR. Reminded me I am just as anal at drawing as I am at writing, details, details, details!!!

What do you do to cheer up the ones you love--even when it is their fault?

15 comments:

Meretta said...

First off...I never said "Told you so!" even when I really, really want to. ;) DH usually gets food and hugs and DDs like snuggles. They are snuggle fiends. Hope it doesn't change.

And *beautiful* drawing, Toni. Did you do it with oil crayons?

Toni Anderson said...

Meretta--that's a good one on the 'told you so'

I used dry pastels (conte?), I have both but can't get details with oils.

Peggy said...

You painted that pic? Wow, great job.

Most my kids all older, so it's usually a shopping trip just her and me, without the other daughter. My son? Usually getting on the ground and wrestling with him puts him in a good mood. :-)

Toni Anderson said...

Peggy--yes I did--thanks! :)

Shopping and wrestling--probably gender specific at any age :)

Bailey Stewart said...

Beautiful drawing Toni, multi-talented!

I usually try to make them laugh. I told you, I live through humor.

Toni Anderson said...

Thanks Eve--yeah, you're pretty funny ;-) Humor helps.

Olga said...

Toni, I thinkt the drawing is great! As for cheering up, I try some compliments in the combination with favorite food.

Scott said...

I'm not sure Toni. Parenting is such an inexact science. We find that once the "crisis", or the heat of the moment if you will, has passed, we take the time to talk about it, saying things like "I understand how you feel." There's nothing we can do except to listen, talk and give love, which seems to work quite nicely. I was a big brother myself, so I'm somewhat of an authority. I always tell Jackson the stories of what my little brother used to do to me, and how I always got in trouble for it. He laughs about that.

Brandy said...

Toni, I have almost the same problem. My Daughter loves her brother but resents the extra time I have to spen with him helping him do things. I try to encourage her to do something she loves to do and help her with that as much as possible. Right now, it's finding her books she will enjoy. He brother can't read yet, so this is just for her!
The painting really is besutiful, you have a wonderful talent for it!

Dennie McDonald said...

we have dances - when one of the kids cries - we have the cryong dance - it either makes them laugh or get really really mad.... and we have variations for it for other moods!

Toni Anderson said...

Scott, I haven't thought of using my childhood stories. Might give that a try.

Brandy, my daughter likes to read but DS always gets in there too!

Dennie--LOL. I think the dancing would finish her off! Especially my dancing :)

Deb said...

Lovely forget-me-nots - I have some by the back door ready to plant out, must remember to do it (ironic how you can forget to plant out forget-me-nots isn't it!) Lovely picture - you should frame it and put it on her bedroom wall.

Parental wise I generally throw in the "if you want to be treated the same as you younger brother then I will treat you the same, but that goes for bed time, independence etc too - oh and eating fish!"

Toni Anderson said...

LOL. I think the threat of American Idol might be enough. LOL. You bought Forget-me-knots? I want some. I know they are weeds and DH will freak but I want some!! I'll sprinkle them in the grass and he can get frustrated with weedkiller. With my luck it would actually work on a forget-me-not!!!

Bailey Stewart said...

I love forget-me-nots. I had a beloved aunt who loved them too.

Deb said...

A friend gave me some out of her garden. Apparently at the end of the flowering period you just pull them up and miraculously they re-appear and spread the following year - how clever is that eh!