Wednesday, September 13, 2006
Writing love scenes
If anybody wants to write a review of my book then they could do so at
I just found the site today when I (sadly) googled myself and discovered 2 new reviews :) Unbelievable. Not sure what this site is all about, but figured it might be good for publicity--or not, if one of my (crazy) relos reviews it LOL. (Anderson is such a common name...after all) and it was really weird to see my bio up on a strange site (link here for scary moment)
I got a 4 heart review from The Romance Studio
and 5 magical wands from Enchanted Ramblings
I was a bit shocked to see I'm thought of as writing explicitly (is that a word?). I mean I have read some stuff that would singe your eyebrows, so I don't consider myself that explicit. Then again, all the bits are accounted for, so... Weird huh? And now I find myself questioning that about my own writing. After all my mother-in-law reads these stories!!!
Then I remembered the first thing I ever read about this subject published in the Romance Writer's Sourcebook 1996 by Stella Cameron. (pg 31).
"DON'T. Print that word in huge letters on a sign. Each time you get ready to write a sensual interlude, whip the sign out and put it where you can see it at all times. Don't hold back. Don't allow every rule of good, effective writing to slip when you write a sex/sensual scene. Don't become a reporter rather than a participator.
Do you worry about the reactions of your relatives if you write a great love scene--or, perish the thought, a great sex scene?
Do you actually worry about this when you are writing?
You can't. You simply can't stutter and stumble through anything but a crippled love scene, if you're visializing Auntie's red face if she should read it later. You can't be embarrassed and still manage to write a passage guaranteed to bruise readers' eyeballs and wring out their emotional and erotic responses."
So the fact that I shock my mother-in-law and DH's great aunty is actually a good thing. I write these scenes from the characters' POV. I am not having sex with strangers (or with women for that matter). Just like even though I murder people on the page, I haven't any actual experience with anything more harmful than a cheesegrater.
Just in case you were wondering ;)